Bring up your daughters as empowered beings not as a burden

DAUGHTERS ARE NOT BURDEN, THEY ARE OUR PRIDE- PM Narendra Modi

It is 2020 but even today the preference for a male child prevails in our society, leading to increasing cases of foeticide, girl child abandonment, and negligence towards the girl’s education, health, and well-being. The United Nations Population Fund released data this year, revealing that India accounts for 45.8 million of the world’s 142.6 million missing females over the past 50 years. These are the women who are abandoned and killed due to post-natal and pre-natal sex selection over time. 

Although the twenty-first century India is highly educated and developing at a fast pace, there is still a higher preference for a male child because sons are considered as assets whether for political, economic, or ritual reasons while daughters are considered burdensome liabilities. The gender bias is so deeply rooted in our society that families literally look for reasons that justify that having a girl child is good for them. Unfortunately, in the world that we inhabit today, bringing up a daughter is indeed a challenge. A parent who wants to allow all the freedom to his/her daughter has to face immense criticism. But then is it right to force women to compromise with her choices and conform to the expectations of her parents and society just because they gave her life?  

 A family should have daughters to know about real struggles in life because not everyone dares to raise a daughter in the cruel world. A family should have daughters because women are depicted as goddesses of happiness and prosperity and performing her kanyadaan is a blessing not everyone gets in life. But what if women don’t conform to these ideal images? What if they are arrogant, speak their mind, and do whatever they want? What if they are prone to committing mistakes like all human beings? What if they have desires which they want to act upon? 

 

Bringing up a girl child wouldn’t have been so difficult if society gave importance to her choice, agency, and individuality. The fear of woman’s safety and the burden of her marriage wouldn’t have been greater than the emphasis on her education and self-development if women weren’t seen as fragile and suppressed beings whose body is the ground of sexual, political and familial violence. Why don’t we eradicate the wrongs, bias, and discriminatory nature of the tradition rather?

It is high time that we shatter the stereotypes that girl children a burden. It is a positive sign that many parents today are readily embracing a girl child. But they need to stop looking at women as oppressed beings. Parents should bring up daughters not with empathy or sympathy for the struggles they have to face in a male-dominated society but with a belief that women are essentially human beings with have equal rights to be empowered. There is a need to change the society that undermines a woman’s freedom rather than forcing a woman to stop living and dreaming.

 

So, how can we change this scenario, which doesn’t favor the female child? Since change begins at home, parents are the best agents of change. We can begin by looking at the positives of having a girl in the family and her contribution to society. Women are pillars of the future, they are the change-makers, they are ones who are multi-taskers.

With such strengths that women possess,why shouls they continued to be sidelined?The girls of today are proving themselves equal to boys in every respect.They are distinguishing themselves as achievers in every field,from academics to sport to the profession.They are successfully playing multiple roles in every sphere of life.Their will to develop and help others develop alongside is what can take our society forward.They are meant to be 50%of the population,their voices matter in creating a more euitable community.Moreover,they make a ‘house’ feel like ‘home’.So, go ahead and welcome the girl child with a warm embrace!

So dear friends I m proud to be a GIRL, a WIFE, and most of all a MOTHER OF TWO GIRL CHILD…“A girl is the greatest gift a mother can have”.

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